You matter, my friend. You've pushed through your feelings time and time again. You've proven that you can hurt and still get stuff done. But a day will come when a new loss will bring a landslide of emotions that takes you by surprise.
As strong people. we have a belief that we should be able to handle this on our own.
I know, I did that for decades. And it took it's toll. I shoved my emotions down, kept pushing through and piled up a ton of resentment. It had an effect on how I engaged with my business, decreased my productivity and got in the way of being present for life.
All it took was 1 celebrity death to send me spiraling down. It didn't make sense at the time. When my Dad died, it was the catalyst I needed to finally get help.
In this very special episode, I introduce you to my grief coach, Wendy Sloneker. Wendy has a very effective process and personality that helped me finally say "Goodbye to Pain", including a beautiful release of my former self.
Weather you experienced a loss through death, divorce, breakup, estrangement, physical health loss, aging loss, loss of trust or self identity changes, Wendy's process can help you. Are you ready to let yourself matter?
[05:15] The Road to Becoming a Grief Coach - When a loved one has a medical crisis and you don't feel prepared, what do you do? How fear of loss was a catalyst for learning new tools and techniques.
[11:45] 40+ Different Types of Loss - Nobody told me this was going to hurt...but all of these losses do hurt.
[19:05] Healing with the Heart vs. the Mind - When mindset work doesn't fully resolve the pain, it's time to put away the brain and pull out your heart.
[23:15] The Straw that Broke the Camel's Back (AKA When It's Time to Get Help) - It might not make sense when a new loss creates a huge magnitude of pain. My friend, that one event stirred up more losses than you realize.
[27:25] When a new Loss Stirs Up Old Abandonment Wounds - When you see the pattern, it all makes sense. Those thoughts from when you were little are back again.
[29:05] Resentment Melting - Everybody feels resentment, even if they don't want to admit it. Fear of being judged for your resentment gets in the way of your healing. Here's how Wendy provided a Safe Container for pure honesty. (I feel 50 pounds lighter after this process!)
[39:57] Supporting Someone Who is Grieving - Would you believe that someone's well intended condolences led to decades of resentment? Yep. It happened to me. And I did it to others because that's how I learned to support people. So now what? Wendy shares a better approach.
[46:34] Adoption as Unprocessed Grief - How can someone that grew up in a happy family still hurt? It all comes down to the Primal Wound.
[50:48] Biased Memories - the Villian or the Saint? - We can't really process and move on without an accurate picture of reality. Learn how Wendy's time graph helped me switch my memories to data to get emotional detachment.
[51:45] The "Goodbye to Pain" Letter - We've heard of Closure Letters before. If left on my own, this would be a "Telling Off" letter. Sure, venting feels good, but it doesn't bring the same level of healing. This structured approach is very effective. In fact, I used it as a loving goodbye to the old version of myself.
[1:05:35] How to Heal with Wendy - It takes a special coach, with the right skillset, to help you heal from Loss. I highly recommend Wendy.
[1:08:45] The Impact of Unprocessed Grief on Business - Sure, you can keep pushing through. Here's what it looks like. With healing, however, you and your business take on a whole new light!
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